It is one of the biggest problems men face with certain women. You have a female friend.  She’s hot.You would like her to be way more than just a buddy. You want to hit that.

But how? How can you approach without it being Strange?

Let’s begin by talking about what Not to do, which is what most guys do. What you need to do NOT want to do is abruptly “confess your feelings for her.”   Nor do you would like to create a sudden move and grab her or kiss her.

If you need to do that, I assure you she will tell you “I do not wish to ruin our friendship,” after which, of course the friendship will be ruined.  And you will never get to Hit it

You will need to get her to realize that you are something she could be with and this really is vitally important. Make her get some feelings that are more than just friends

So, as time passes, you would like to begin getting a small much more unavailable. You would like to be naughty, funny, playful, and you would like to touch and tease her lightly–but always take it away.

Then you want to get her to believe the concept of her dating you by saying, “To bad we can’t date, because it might ruin our friendship.”

Ladies hate to hear this just as much as men do

What will happen is, she will begin to think of you as a challenge. And women love to have challenges.  Women find that challenging males are much more appealing.  After which she will start to respond to your playful teasing only a little bit more.

You want tease and play and just do alittle more to see how far it can go and say things like  “no, we shouldn’t be doing this,” and then, lastly, allow it when it “happens”

If you listen to what a woman says when she finally receives actual with a man who was only a friend, she will constantly say, “it just happened.”

Your preparing her to say  “it” to “just occur,” without having any resistance on her part. In fact, she will think it’s her idea and that suddenly you started to be so appealing she just couldn’t resist you.

Sit back and laugh to yourself knowingly that it was your plan the whole time.

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Derek Lamont is the writer of “online pick up secrets“  I had to post his great article he just sent me over.  So many of you guys make these critical mistakes and I wanted to share it to all my Alpha Males.   Post your comments and let me know what you think.

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So… you’re on your favorite dating site… or maybe you’re on
Facebook…

And there she is.

The girl that catches your attention. But what do you do? Let me
tell you what 99% of guys do… they’ll message them and say
something really generic like…

“Hey! How’s it going! You look really interesting and I was
wondering if you would like to chat sometime! Hit me back!”

Or…

“Wow, you’re gorgeous. I bet you have all the guys out there
hitting on you… but hopefully this message will get through to
you because I would really like to treat you out sometime!”

Or…

“I’m the nicest guy ever if you give me the chance! You should
hit me back!”

I don’t care if you believe me – but it’s true. I guarantee you
the success rate of some of these generic messages are about near
1% if you’re lucky. And that’s if you have a really nice
profile…

So what’s the magic formula?

Well for starters…I did mention this before… you need for
PERFECT YOUR PROFILE before you get started.

Don’t message ANYONE until your online dating profile is perfect!

What do I mean by this? You need to get the right pictures and
right content in your profile. An attractive girl will not message
you back if you have NO picture and just the most generic responses
in your profile content.

Picture yourself from a girl’s perspective… you see some guy
message you on some dating website and he has NO pictures… can
you say creep?

What kind of pictures do you need to include? Typically speaking,
you need to include pictures that convey value – but not in the
way you’re thinking of… I’ll get to that a bit later.

(Or you can learn it here):

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The second thing you need to do is READ HER PROFILE. Too many
guys fail to personalize the first message, which is critical.

There are too many cut and paste messages out there.

An attractive girl gets as many as fifty messages a day! Do you
think she’s going to have time to read all of them? Absolutely
not.

You need something that catches their attention…the easiest way
to do this is to personalize your message! More on this later…

Finally, the third thing most guys do is… write way too damn
much!

Keep the message SHORT! Again, you need to appear like a
non-creepy and non-needy guy. Again, imagine being an attractive
girl… and you literally receive a full-fledged NOVEL!
How weird is that to her? You barely know her and already you’re
willing to invest a massive amount of time for her?

She doesn’t deserve that yet.

I give you all the tips you need on my website! So you’re in
luck.

Go check them out right now at

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You won’t be disappointed.

~ Derek Lamont

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